It is quite an interesting fact that, as human’s knowledge has grown and scientific advances has been made, many new diseases and condition, that previously did not exist, came to existence (pretty sure that is how it is). Some of these conditions are related to behavior and mental health. One of these conditions is called antisocial personality disorder.
To explain this disorder briefly, if you do not give a you-know-what about others, love breaking law, enjoy hurting other people, and society in general, congratulations, because you have this disorder. People with these disorders simply cannot live in harmony like normal people do. Now, all humans have a little of this condition. For example, my noisy neighbor who loves to sing at the top of his lungs, my classmate who is a racist and hates us all or even that guy that never comes to our parties – do not ask me who he is, he never came to I do not know.
Now, if you think that not going to parties will make you one of such people, I hardly doubt that is the case. It is important to find out the reason, but in most cases, it has its roots elsewhere. First, it is very important to know if you are an extrovert or an introvert. There is no need explain extrovert’s behavior here, but about introverts, though the degree of their intensity varies, most introverts do not like going to parties – just like me, and it is not because I am never invited. Now, if you are not an introvert, and you do not like going to parties as well, it is not the end of the world, not yet anyway. It might be the case that you just simply do not like going to parties, or maybe you do not like that certain party or the people in it – I held a party last week, and not even a soul showed up, I guess they were all anti-social, it was not because they did not like me, was it?!
Now, if you would like to go to a party, but you cannot due to any of the mentioned reasons, here is your solution: if you do not like the people there, simply ignore them in the party, and I promise you will not even notice them, you can start by not speaking to them, which is why I did not talk anyone in the last party I was invited (cannot remember when it was though). If you are an introvert, try to hang out with your extrovert friends some more. You will slowly change. Lastly, if you are an anti-social person, make sure to visit a doctor. They know better how to help you than I do – well, I do not exactly.
In summary, there are many noticeable differences between an anti-social person and one who is not, and having a characteristic of one group is most certainly not the right way to categorize yourself. Do not be afraid to refuse a party invitation if you do not want to go.
Written by: Alireza Saeidi
